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THE COMMUTE: My sister passed away this week. What does this have to do with The Commute you ask? For one thing, I told Ned there wouldn’t be any this week and he was fine with that. Then I got to thinking.

I received this awful news just after boarding a bus for Atlantic City. With the help of a cell phone, the Internet, a few signatures, and the cooperation of a lot of people, the funeral had been arranged on the bus  (except for the signatures part) without a single hitch and there was virtually no stress involved. When I got home, I notified some people and they notified others. I asked myself “Why can’t life be so simple and easy?”

We spend too much time arguing and bickering. Relatives not speaking to relatives, and neighbors not speaking to neighbors with the other side always at fault. I am reminded of an episode of “The Danny Thomas Show” where Uncle Tonoose’s family had been fighting for centuries and no one even knew the cause of the original dispute. All they knew was that they weren’t supposed to talk to each other. Extend this thought to countries and it is easy to see why we have wars.

My sister worked for the Department of City Planning for more than 25 years, where I also started my career. Probably 99 percent of all plans made by city planners, even the best laid plans, just end up on the shelf because different groups are arguing over different things and no one can agree. Then politics gets involved and either compromises are made, which ruin the intention of the initial plan or, even worse, it gets scrapped entirely.

Arguing, bickering and politics are the reasons why we still don’t have a Second Avenue Subway. In the 1970s, when costs started to rise it was proposed that it be built in two phases with the first portion built above 63rd Street, and the second portion started ten years later below that point. Of course, the people who would have to wait for construction to begin were not happy. Then the powerful Sheldon Silver representing the Lower East Side insisted on a cup handle to better serve Alphabet Town, further adding to the expense. He also insisted that the subway be built all in one phase delaying the project even further until it got so expensive, it couldn’t be built at all and had to be placed on hold.

When it was revived again for the third time, 25 years later, project costs had multiplied and two phases that had become one again, were now four. Today, we are still struggling to complete Phase 1 with the completion date already pushed into the future several times and the costs escalating every day. That is just one example.

Just think what could be accomplished if we cooperate more and argue less. (I hope two certain local groups are reading this. I won’t say which ones.) An event — a funeral — probably involving hundreds of people, when you consider everyone you don’t see working behind the scenes, including friends notifying other friends, went off quickly. It took place within 30 hours, only six hours beyond the 24 hours Jewish law allows, and flawlessly through cooperation and a common goal. Look at the TV show, Extreme Makeover Home Edition, in which new homes are designed and constructed in seven days. Everyone cooperates.

And for the curious ones — my sister died after spending seven years and seven days in a coma as the result of a bicycle accident. She was riding on perhaps what is considered the safest of all types of bicycle lanes, the Belt Parkway bicycle path, where bicycles are separated from automobile traffic, and she did not collide with another bicycle. She wasn’t wearing a helmet in spite of my repeated warnings to her because it was too just much of a hassle for her to adjust all the straps and put it on properly. Besides, what could possibly happen on a physically separated bike lane, where there are no cars, when you are being cautious? She still would have been injured, but those injuries might not have been as severe.

Always wear your helmet when cycling no matter what your excuse may be.

The Commute is a weekly feature highlighting news and information about the city’s mass transit system and transportation infrastructure. It is written by Allan Rosen, a Manhattan Beach resident and former Director of MTA/NYC Transit Bus Planning (1981).

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  • Barkingspider7

    Wow Allan.  Sorry for your loss.

  • Barkingspider7

    Wow Allan.  Sorry for your loss.

  • Anonymous

    Sorry for you loss, Allan.

  • Ron B

    Sorry for your loss Allan, about 16 years ago my wife and I were also riding on that path between the VNB & the 69th Street pier, all of a sudden a removable sport roof from a speeding car came flying over her, THANK GOD she happened to duck.

  • Ron B

    Sorry for your loss Allan, about 16 years ago my wife and I were also riding on that path between the VNB & the 69th Street pier, all of a sudden a removable sport roof from a speeding car came flying over her, THANK GOD she happened to duck.

    • Allan Rosen

      Just for the record, the accident happened just off Knapp Street. I do not know the exact location.

      I am also glad that she ducked.

  • http://www.flickr.com/knightmare6 Knightmare6

    Sorry for your loss!

  • nolastname

    Sorry for your loss Allan.  Thank you for caring enough to share with us.

  • Georgia

    Sorry Alan about your sister may she rest in peace.
    Thank you for sharing this with all of us

  • Windy

    Alan My deepest sympathy.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Anonymous

    Sorry for your loss Allan.
    Take this from someone who puts about 2000 miles a year on my bike; it’s a great way to get around and enjoy ones self but if you’re not fully aware of your surroundings 100% of the time, it can be deadly.

    Life is not simple because everyone has their own agenda and refuses to compromise.
    It’s just human nature.

    • Allan Rosen

      You are so correct about being 100% aware of your surroundings at all time. I’ve always believed that that was the cause of the accident. I would rather not get into the specifics.

      As for your second paragraph, I hope this article makes people think a little so that will not always be the case.

      • http://www.flickr.com/photos/lisanne001 Lisanne!

        I once crashed into my patio. I was turning into my driveway and the wheel turned a few degrees more than it should have. I took my hands off the handlebars for a split second. I didn’t injure myself but the wheel needed adjustment afterward. It was so quick I was surprised. We always feel that nothing can happen in a familiar place, but like the statistics,say, most accidents happen in the home. We have to always be aware and observant.

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/lisanne001 Lisanne!

    I’m sorry that your sister had to become a compelling argument for wearing helmets when cycling. We live our lives believing that we are in control because we are being careful. There are so many things that can happen that we cannot prepare for. It’s another lesson, we need to pay attention, all the time. But even then we should be taking every precaution necessary for what we are doing.

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/lisanne001 Lisanne!

    Co-operation usually happens when it is necessary and imperative. Chicago when much of it burnt in 1871 rebuilt itself in short time,, San Francisco after the Earthquake in 1906, did likewise. Much of our Navy was destroyed at Pearl Harbor, we rebuilt quickly. I suppose that imperative need is the driving force that galvanizes us to action. Otherwise, we have too much time, and we become critical and slow acting.

    • Allan Rosen

      If you remember my article how the MTA excelled after 911, there was no bureaucracy and no one telling anyone what to do. Everyone cooperated and did what was necessary to transport emergency personnel and sift through the rubble. Most people think it was only the police, fire department and EMS, but the MTA played a major role into 911 recovery.

      • http://www.flickr.com/photos/lisanne001 Lisanne!

        When people don’t consider whether someone is going to be challenging what they’re doing they act freely and more responsibly. Intuitive behavior often gives us solutions when we need them. There was no time to do much thinking about what needed to be done. Time was imperative.

        After 9/11 there were immediate decisions made by every city agency that provides services that the public relies upon. The events that day caused disruptions that affected their ability to get services to the public for days. Communication systems were compromised, staff was short as travelling was difficult for a few days (especially for those who worked in the area near City Hall, and necessary closures meant a backlog of work later. But many put more into their jobs than was usual for them. It’s a pity that sense of responsibility didn’t last.

  • Tinafg

    Amen to your words.  Well said.  And I’m terribly sorry for your loss.

  • Allan Rosen

    I want to thank everyone for their kind condolences.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Walt-Gekko/100001632330014 Walt Gekko

    Sorry to hear about the passing of your sister.

  • ajedrez

    Sorry for your loss.

    Regarding the main point of this post, you’re 100% right: Everybody wanted everything (both north and south of 63rd Street(, and in the end, nobody got anything.